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“What an evil betrayal of Peri, and sad debasement of the character of the contributing doomsayers on that website. It would be hard to believe humans could treat each other this way, if we did not have daily reminders in every form of media. It is horrifyingly reminiscent of the behavior of the lynching mobs, or other evil groups, like the Nazis. I have known Peri, Charles, many of Peri’s family members, dear friends and students for more than 4 years, and cannot stand for the sadistic defamation of this beautiful and courageous person. Who are all of these self-proclaimed victims of some great power I did not know Peri had! These are lies, being spread by what appear to be commiserating malcontents. I have seen how much Peri gives and forgives on a daily basis. I know that she does not tolerate bad behavior when she is aware of it. She will forgive 70 times 7, but cannot allow some situations or behavior because of her role as a teacher of hatha yoga, and being very much a proponent of standing up for what you believe in, even when it attracts unjust criticism by those whose behavior is not condoned. I am sure some of the main contributors to this ferocious attack have received instruction that may have been hard to take. Please be assured none would have been given if the recipient had not asked for guidance or wanted to assume a role of leadership or power (as a teacher or employee) of Synergy Yoga, where Peri’s role is the responsible leader.

This has reminded me of why employees who are being fired in our firm are immediately escorted off the premises – for caution against retaliation, which is actually expected. In yoga, we are all thinking everyone is loving and on a higher level of consciousness, when that is truly not generally the case. This website and obvious encouragement from the creators of it have provided the forum for their vengeance.

Although not necessary, since I trust Peri implicitly and consider her a friend, she has shown me proof in writing or detailed explanations of the situations in some of these ludicrous accusations. I wish the accusers would do some soul searching, remembering there is only one true Judge within to whom we all answer. I guess that it is just that as a teacher, Peri has assumed a public role and thereby submitted herself to this unjust crucifixion. I have only known her to give of herself – her skills, time, guidance, compassion and even money to anyone who was in need and receptive. I didn’t even feel like responding to these lies, but for anyone who sincerely cares, I wanted to offer a true attestation to Peri’s loving and caring qualities – just for the record.

Attendance is down at the Yoga Room and I was wondering how? A wise friend reminded me that lighthearted people forget all the service received, when the shop they have frequented is being robbed….I wish more of those who may read this website, whom I’ve heard over and over profess such gratitude for all they have received from Peri and the Yoga Room to express some caring concern for what is happening here. Many already have, but to those who are waiting until the storm has cleared, it may take a while, and the opportunity to show support will not be so great. I know so many love and appreciate Peri and all that the Yoga Room stands for. It would be such a shame that this band of vengeful people be condoned by our silence. She has been our teacher, friend and best well wisher for so long… She does not ask for it, but deserves our support. Thank you for reading my input, and please do have others read this website to know what is happening, and come forward with their support.”

—SK

The Rondberg blog is completely full of slanderous and vicious lies and opposite of what Peri, Synergy Yoga, The Yoga Room and all our wonderful staff and teachers truly are.

Peri is as soft as a flower when kindness is concerned and mightier than thunder when principle is concerned. If Peri has any fault, she has been too trusting, generous and kind to too many people. I have only witnessed kindness, compassion and overt generosity from Peri to all her friends, students, employees and teachers, here in California, Europe, Hawaii and India. Living saints have expressed to me the high level of Peri’s kindness, thoughtfulness and caring. Essentially, the young teachers and employees who recently left The Yoga Room did not honor their agreements and left without notice. They all received love, careers, and skills and were trusted like family. These are not just ex-employees, they were our friends and all spent time in our homes for birthdays, Christmas, dinners, etc. They are being misled by Dr. Terry Rondberg who unfortunately is following through with a hateful and delusional scheme. It is all about competition and business greed and an injurious adjustment on Peri. Note letter on our website he wrote to Peri. Peri is basically a very shy person and she hates to be revered. Concerning the traditional (Namaste) after class, this is done mostly for the student to honor that something happened in the practice. Namaste is about honoring the light, which resides equally in the teacher and the student. This is a 5,000 year old tradition. Concerning "master teacher" this also is a traditional form of respect in most professions. For example, "master mechanic", "master builder", "master Karate teacher", etc. She is the most loyal devotee of Paramahansa Yogananda that I have ever met. She has served at the Encinitas Temple for over 20 years in Kirtans, lesson study, etc. For 16 years, Peri has manifested with high integrity, the principles of his teachings in business at the Yoga Room. Countless people in the community have received love, training, jobs, counsel, and a safe haven to practice yoga and to be with other like-minded people. Everyone who has ever left is always welcome to come back and practice or clear any unresolved issues. 12,000 students later, it would be impossible for every single person to be happy with what we teach or how we do business.

Most of the local yoga studios nearby have an abundance of teachers trained at the Yoga Room or actually own the studios. We cannot control them honoring signed agreements to not teach Synergy within a 10 mile radius of The Yoga Room. We do have very honorable Synergy Yoga teachers that have been with us many years in different parts of the world including Nürnberg Germany and Point Arena, California.

The number one quality of a yogi is fearlessness and as far as principles go, we at the Yoga Room are fearless in addressing any dishonorable actions (stealing, lying, cheating or not honoring commitments) of employees, teachers or students. This is not abuse; it is truth. If ever there are disagreements, we are always open to resolving them. No one on the Rondberg blog even the few who have actually signed their true names have tried to resolve their complaints about us. It is obvious all the anonymous writers are really just a couple people (Rondberg, DePalma, Mendehlson). How cowardly! Note Julie Thomas’ testimonial about Roxanne and the blog.Also, many of my personal friends from all over the world were not posted or profusely edited. None of the recent, young defectors (Elia, Roxanne, Charmaine, Derek) ever used the abuse word and none complained whatsoever about “overtime”. Sleep and food depravation? Forced to do the ten-day intensive? Forced to become Synergy Yoga teachers? “Please see Charmaine Calcara’s acknowledgement for her Synergy Yoga Final. Within one week she completely jumped ship and betrayed her friends, fellow employees, students, her mentor teachers and most of all Peri. Actually, all four of these very young teachers did the same thing. I have witnessed many people take advantage of Peri’s kindness and abuse her, rip her off and betray her. All of this recent dramatic betrayal started a few days after Dr. Terry Rondberg wrote his letter, and Roxanne shortly after abandoned all her duties without notice. Elia, Derek and Charmaine all left a few days after. Peri originally came to Encinitas, California to enter the SRF ashram as a nun. She was advised by the elder monastics that she would serve Paramahansa Yogananda and his teachings on a greater level by teaching yoga in the world. 16 years of heroic service, 12,000 students later and a few handfuls of mal contempt rip offs. We can only pray for them. They have destroyed the business and ripped off thousands of people in the process denying them of their Synergy Yoga practice, the aftershocks of this behavior is beyond catastrophic; Spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially and on deep levels of friendship.

Even though we’re sad and shocked at this abrupt change in our life and in the lives of the other teachers, we do trust and believe that truth will prevail. I have seen Peri forgive 70 x 7 and we believe in the practice of forgiveness and non-violence. We love everyone that came here for training. Each one holds a special place in our hearts. The love never goes away.

Even though we have been crucified and betrayed on every level, we have felt so many blessing we may have never learned. God needs Peri somewhere else because if this had not happened Peri would have never left Encinitas. Even though viciously crushed, she still exudes the sweetness of magnificent roses.

Namaste,

—Charles DeFay
Senior Synergy Yoga Mentor
Owner of Surf Therapy Yoga in Point Arena, California since 1989 and former
Captain of Coronado Beach Lifeguards
Bachelor of Science, Geology, SDSU 1976
and husband of beloved Peri

March 29, 2008

To Whom It May Concern:

I have been an on-and-off student at The Yoga Room since November of 2000, when I began a
second-year project during my graduate school program in psychology at the University of Santa
Monica. The purpose of this project was to begin (for the first time) and build a Yoga practice that
would strengthen my spiritual growth, increase my physical fitness, improve my emotional and
mental well-being and to support me in necessary life changes. Over the last eight years, The
Yoga Room and all of its teachers and staff have been a tremendous support to me as I have
achieved and exceeded my wildest expectations.

Immediately upon entering The Yoga Room for the first time, I became aware of the compassion
and serenity that was present in the space on Second Street, and emulated by almost all of the
teachers and staff members. When I was first building my practice, like many new students, I
lacked strength, flexibility, focus and skill. Throughout the course of the years that followed, I
improved on every single level and now, consider myself somewhat advanced in my practice. I
currently practice Synergy Yoga on approximately 8-10 hours per week in The Yoga Room’s
heated studio. As a result of my participation in these classes, I have received the benefits of a
very high level of strength, endurance, flexibility and overall physical fitness, almost effortless
maintenance of my ideal body weight, increased desire to eat healthy foods and to abstain from
unhealthy activities, improved mental and emotional well-being and a stronger sense of my own,
personal spiritual connection.

During the last eight years, I have known both Peri and Charles (and many others) as Yoga
teachers and as kind and conscious members of the Encinitas community. I would like to note the
following:

• At no time throughout the course of my practice did any teacher or staff member at The
Yoga Room ever attempt to coerce, manipulate or convince me to attend any class or
workshop. I expressed interest in the 10-day Intensive, once, and was given information.
Upon making the decision not to attend for my own, financial reasons, no one gave me
even one moment of grief about it.

• At no time during any one of my hundreds of visits to The Yoga Room did I ever witness
any behavior or any sort that I would consider inappropriate. I never witnessed Charles
DeFay or Peri Ness-Defay treating any teacher or staff member with anything other than
kindness. Additionally, neither of them has ever treated me with anything other than
kindness.

• Having visited the studio for nearly eight years, I have seen a large number of people
begin and complete the Teacher Training Program. Until now, I have never heard the
allegations that have been made by the teachers who recently resigned. In fact, only two
weeks before her resignation, I had a conversation with a teacher who had just passed
her final evaluation – a teacher who had been involved with The Yoga Room in some way
or another since she was only a small child. During this conversation, she expressed
genuine love and gratitude for her experience at The Yoga Room, and the utmost respect
for Peri Ness-Defay. I asked her, specifically, whether she planned to leave now that she’d
received her certification and her response was “oh, NO! Never. I’m here for life.”

While I would never seek to discount another person’s experience, I feel very strongly that the
teachers who recently left have blown this situation tremendously out of proportion and, quite
possibly, have done irreparable damage to a business that has been thriving in our community for
16 years. That said, here are some of the questions I hope people will consider: if these teachers
felt so mistreated for so many years, then why did they stay for so long? Why did they never
before express dissatisfaction with the way they were being treated? If Peri Ness-DeFay is such an
unreasonable person, why is that only coming out now, after all these years?

Since the resignation of the four most recent teachers (for whom I always had a tremendous
amount of love and respect), I have spoken with Roxanne DePalma (the former Head Mentor
Teacher) two different times. During our first conversation, which occurred within weeks of her
leaving, she advised me NOT to attend the 10-day Intensive. I noted how very different that
advice was than the information she’d shared with a class full of students only a few weeks
earlier: that she personally never knew she wanted to be a Yoga teacher until beginning her
practice at The Yoga Room, that Peri, Charles and the 10-day Intensive had changed her life for
the better, and that she wholeheartedly recommended that all of us seriously consider attending.
She regularly described it as “the best gift you can give yourself.” Then, in my most recent
conversation with her just a few days ago, she admitted that she had been the provider of almost
all information distributed on the website www.truthaboutsynergyyoga.com, that her sister,
Melinda, was behind the website, and that their personal goal was to do everything they could
do to get The Yoga Room closed down. I personally cannot imagine the level of hatred and lack
of consciousness that would need to reside inside of a person in order to have such a goal. If she
feels wronged and as though something is owed to her, I would never fault her for seeking to
recoup whatever it is she lost. What I do fault her for, though, are her actions as related to
vengeance. Clearly, vengeance for perceived wrongdoing is the only purpose for the information
that has been distributed. Further, at the very least, I would describe the above account of
Roxanne DePalma’s behaviors as duplicitous, deceitful, and out of integrity. So, I urge all those
who have been contacted to remember the old adage: consider the source.

The Yoga Room has been like a second home to me. I feel heartbroken and devastated that it
may not survive the events that have recently taken place. I wish that all those involved had kept
their personal issues just that… personal… so that members of the community of Encinitas could
continue to receive the same value I’ve always received there.

Sincerely,

—Julie Thomas, MA

January 16, 2008

Thank you to the incredible Synergy Yoga mentor teachers, for being
true examples of yogis, for supporting me and helping me along this path
To Charles my mentor. I have modeled much of my life from his example
of discipline and fearlessness, to mediate and to practice no MATTER
what.

To Roxanne for her fearless example. For "tough love" and never
holding back. For giving me feedback on all aspects of my life and
helping me grow and learn. You bring joy and light in to my life
To Peri my Master Teacher. Whom ever since I was a little girl have
looked up to, and always have aspired to be like. Thank you for
teaching me to be a stronger person. for teaching me loyalty, truth,
integrity and love. for walking the talk and for being patient with
me, for training me and for saving my life by keeping me on the
spiritual path. I am honored and humbled to be your student and your
friend. Thank you for teaching me how to love and be loved.
And to my Guru Paramahansa Yogananda and his unceasing guidance
support and protection. For guiding me since my first breath, guided
me here, and for our promise of loyalty to each other and his promise
to pick me up no matter how many times i fall.

Thank you everyone.

—Charmaine Calcara

A Synergy Yoga Experience
                                                                                   
I would like to share a personal experience of mine, having been a student, a teacher in training, mentor teacher and an employee at the Yoga Room, Synergy Yoga Center in Encinitas, CA.

The Synergy Yoga Center has provided for 16 years a safe and encouraging place for people to practice hatha yoga. In the studio the teaching philosophy emphasizes the practitioner to honor their limits, not to go beyond their edge. I have had a very positive experience in my 4 years practicing at the studio. In my current position I am honored to be passing on the teachings that I have learnt from Peri Ness in teaching many students that come through the Yoga Room doors as well as all over the world as I travel.

The Synergy Yoga Center is not directly affiliated with the SRF - but due to the fact that Peri Ness is a sincere, exemplary devotee of Paramahansa Yoganada and because she honors her Guru as well as the lineage of teachers whom she has learnt from, the connection to the SRF is evident and should not be ignored. She has a strong spiritual connection that she brings into the studio, the students and the teachers. Inspiring many personally and through teachers she has trained.

My experience working with Peri Ness has been positive and educational. She has always encouraged and guided me appropriately and most of the time well beyond what I would expect from a Yoga teacher and an employer (in respect to her way of accommodating to my personal needs of time off for travel for work or for any other circumstances, and for compensation for my time as an employee). I personally regard Peri Ness as a generous, modest, compassionate and hardworking person, who usually puts others’ needs and benefit before her own and is very modest in her lifestyle.
Working and teaching at the studio has been a great experience for me.

The few negative experiences I have had while working at Synergy Yoga Center have been with individuals, who now are now taking part in causing the current publicity and slander that is going on in the Encinitas community and on the internet. I am happy to say though, that I have learnt from everyone I have met and worked with at the Yoga Room, and it has recently provided me with a major opportunity to look at human behavior and ways to handle conflict.
I must mention that I have never been coerced, nor have I witnessed abuse, food or sleep deprivation, nor any of the absurd claims that are being made about the Yoga Room being a “cult”.
The yoga room has always encouraged trainees and staff to get adequate rest and food during the days of teacher training and as part of their daily lives.

The Teacher Training Program at the Synergy Yoga Center is well designed to enhance one’s understanding of yoga; the training program emphasizes studies (meaning literature that is part of the required reading) beyond the asana (the main physical aspect of Hatha Yoga) and is not a short cut in becoming a yoga teacher and it is not always easy or given. Teachers are trained in all aspects of living a yogic lifestyle. From what I have observed in life and in yoga, I have gathered that not all individuals are meant to adhere to at times strict guidelines that for some come more naturally.

People come and people go, life happens and minds change. And we should all  take responsibility for our own doing, decisions and actions.

The Synergy Yoga Center has been open to everyone, limitations or not; there is an emphasis on safety in all classes and teacher training - honoring the students experience in yoga through a class that integrates body, mind and soul.

Sincerely,

—Outi Pulkkinen

My Experience of Synergy Yoga and the Yoga Room

My name is Markus Beer. I am 35 years old and teach Synergy Yoga in Germany in the Nuremberg area. My main professions are testing and supporting bank software and providing a health care service as a manual therapist.

I started practicing Synergy Yoga in 2003 and it has been the most important factor in balancing out all levels of my life ever since. With a background in competitive sports it especially taught me to honour my edge. From that point of view and with the teacher training I was able to develop understanding and compassion.

The Yoga Room has always been an awesome place for me to deepen my practice. Myself I always felt very acknowledged and encouraged by Peri Ness DeFay and her husband Charles DeFay and can say that I understand now how important it is to acknowledge people for their efforts and committment. After getting a 500 hour certificate in 2006 Peri Ness DeFay invited me to participate in their 1000 hour programme. Although being designed as an inhouse programme I was allowed to do my complete apprenticeship overseas. I highly appreciated that as a sign of great trust and faith in the potential of a student. I have always felt very supported by them and they always reassured me that I could contact them anytime I needed advice or help. Themselves they have been open and interested to listen to my ideas and plans.

—Markus Beer

I have been practicing and teaching at the Yoga Room for over 4 years.
During that time it has been my sanctuary – a guarantee on a difficult day
that I can walk through the door, take class and walk out with a clearer
perspective and a lighter heart. As a student and teacher I have witnessed
countless people make positive and lasting changes in their lives with
dedicated practice and during the 10-Day Intensives. After every class I
teach, I see the little victories – the brighter, calmer faces and the
gratitude when a student says "That was just what I needed".

I participated in the 10-Day Intensive about 4 years ago. The effects of
that experience are still at work in my life. I was gently and lovingly
guided by Peri, Charles and several other teachers through 10 days of
self-discovery and self-healing. Since my own 10-Day experience I have had
the honor of assisting many other yogis in their 10-Day retreats. I have
been in awe of the transformation that occurs during those 10 days. It is a
powerful, beautifully designed retreat that teaches anyone with strong
intention that yoga can heal on the deepest levels.

The Yoga Room has been a fixture in Encinitas for nearly 16 years. I believe
this says something about the power and purity of Synergy Yoga. And 16 years
of dedication and service to the community and yogis from across the globe
speaks volumes of Peri and the powerful, pure flow she's been teaching for
all these years. I can’t count the number of students who have said to me
“There is nothing out there like Synergy".

I send my deepest gratitude to Peri for creating and maintaining the
sanctuary of the Yoga Room and Synergy Yoga for 16 years! It is a true
blessing in my and my family’s lives.

Namaste,

—Jen Stacklin

I have been practicing since 2005 and did my ten-day in 2005. I originally started doing yoga to help with flexibility, endurance and strength training for my Martial Arts. I worked a bit for Charles in Point Arena and he started inviting me to classes.  My first class with Charles was amazing and I felt like I had a major healing during class.  I noticed a difference in the way I was feeling right away.  It brought me right into my body and I felt connected. I stuck with it consistently for about 6 months and did my first posture clinic in Point Arena. About 3 months later, I did the October ten-day. My first impression of Peri was that she was a very special person and I respected her immediately.  About midway through my ten-day, I felt like I couldn’t be any luckier if I had one the lottery.  I felt unlimited in my potential and began to think about being a teacher.  I had already been teaching kick-boxing so I had natural ability for leading a class.    I wanted to help people in the same way that I felt Charles and Peri had helped me. Without their support and generosity, I would not have been able to continue my education.  They let me go into debt with them which I have paid back all the way now and am a certified teacher.  I am now currently teaching classes in Point Arena.  I love teaching. I love teaching Synergy. I teach from love and I feel like everything you do with love is blessed.  So I am writing this out of love in hopes that it might add some clarity to the current situation.  Charles and Peri have been very good to me. They have gone above and beyond the call of duty to help me become a teacher and to be there as friends.  

I think that things are hard on everybody right now and it is easy to criticize people but that’s not really focusing on the solution. It is focusing on more problems. So please try to focus your attention on all the good that people do because that will bring more good things to the world.  

For truth and love,

Namaste,

—Kieran Martin

My 17 year old son told me, "Mom, you finding yoga, was the best thing that happened to our family". What a true statement. I have practiced yoga only at The Yoga room, did'nt look further, did'nt have to, yoga at the yoga room is practiced and taught at its purest sense, to strenthen once spiritual believes. Synergy yoga centre is a very special place, one could feel the positive, loving and spiritual vibrations every class. It is a very safe and loving environment the minute you enter the door. Having said this about the centre, i would like to say a few words about its owner and my Master teacher Peri ness Defay. How could any organization be successful for 16yrs. if it did'nt have a dedicated leader. Peri is a loving, caring and generous person. I am not saying she is a saint, if she was she would'nt be amongst us, she would be sitting in a cave, meditating, which she often told us, that is what she would rather be doing. Teaching yoga is the highest order, it is not any job, we work with souls, we pray, love and respect the light in every student who walks through those doors. Peri has been taught and trained to practise this all her life, she walks the talk. Her expectations of the staff is high, but that is what makes the studio stand apart. I would'nt be wrong in saying that 50% of the students come to take Peri's class and linger by the front desk after class to exchange a few words with her. As for my training, I am honored and proud to be a certified yoga teacher from the synergy yoga centre.

—Sumathi Ravikumar

I began practicing at the Yoga Room in February , 2001. I did the 2 month challenge in June of 2001 and have been consistently practicing ever since.

I knew I wanted to do the 10 day intensive and I find it amusing to hear so many of the people who have been attacking us say that they were "forced" to do the 10 day. (I guess they don't know about free will!)
Not only did I never feel any pressure, but I remember speaking to Peri and her telling me "the 10 day will always be there...when the time is right, you'll do it." I finally did it in April of 2003 and it was truly
life changing! It was 10 days of yoga, meditation,wonderful lectures and emotional release. There has not been a single moment that I have regretted doing the 10 day.
I've worked here since October of 2002 and have thoroughly enjoyed it. I've been blessed to work at the Yoga Room and also at a flower shop...most people would probably envy the fact that I look forward to going to work every single day!

Peri has been an incredible teacher, employer, advisor and true friend to me. The viciousness of the attacks we have been under recently is so sad and hurtful not only to Peri but to all those to all those who love
and care about her. We are a family here and I find it disgusting and pathetic that a few misguided individuals have nothing better to do with their time. Do they actually feel good when they put their head on the pillow?

I support Peri 100% and I hope we can keep Synergy Yoga going in Encinitas for years to come. Thank you to all the steadfast, fearless yogis who continue to walk through these doors. It's often difficult to make sense of things like this at the time they are happening, but in the end we must be confident in the victory of good over evil!

Namaste,

—Yogalinda

I stepped my feet into the Yoga Room 9 years ago by accident as I was
here to take a vacation. Once I took the first class I felt drawn in to
learn more . After the 2nd class, with founder, Master Teacher Peri
Ness, I right away signed up for the 10 day intensive. At first I would
come for a month and then leave for a couple months. Then come for a
little longer and go back to Germany. At the end, I stayed. Why?
Because I learned so much about me and my life. All these questions I
had been holding inside started to unfold. There is such a holiness in
these asanas that I am fascinated and still learn even today. I
understand the uniqueness and wholistic life through the Synergy Flow.
I resolved many many issues. I started to touch divine qualities inside
of me by practicing regularly. And now I remember they are always here,
only my awareness or action can drift away. Thru Synergy, I found an
arrow which is guiding me wherever I set my intention. Everything just
falls into place. Peri, my beloved teacher, has always supported me
since then. Even though I am living in Germany right now, I come once a
year for vacation, further training, assisting trainings and teaching
class at the Yoga Room. Peri is always available for any questions,
support and the bigger picture on all levels. That is amazing! I have
never found a teacher who has such an enormous understanding of
transformation, life process and long distance relationships. In
Germany I teach Synergy every day. It is just the same joy and bliss
like when I come to Encinitas, meet new yogis and also see many students
from years ago when I use to live here. This is my yoga family and I
feel grateful and special to be connected with this wonderful,
transformational place which is created and founded by Peri Ness-DeFay.

—Heike

In April 2006 I was not feeling well and did not want to turn to
prescription drugs as I had witnessed so many of my friends have major side
effects and noticed their health continue to spiral downward.  I walked into
a local yoga studio, Surf Therapy, in Point Arena and took classes with
Rhona Frost, who has been teaching Synergy for many years.  I also took
classes from Charles DeFay and noticed that I had an increase of energy
after class.  This was rare for me as quite often after a full-nights sleep,
I still felt tired.  I started with 3 classes per week and noticed my energy
improve although my blood tests still revealed health issues.

In June 2007 I attended a posture clinic led by Peri Ness.  During the
posture clinic, I immediately noticed that she had an intuition that was
tuned into what I needed to get the most out of the postures.  She and the
other teachers were a joy to be with.  Peri is a genuine, loving Yoga
Teacher and I had a heart-opening experience during the clinic that felt
amazing.

I attended the next ten-day.  For me this represented ten days in which I
could focus on healing and develop healthy habits. Peri’s adjustments,
words, the kind and gentle way that she and the other teachers encouraged me
to go inside, meditate and find the answers were keys to my healing.  I
learned how to nourish my body, observe the power of my thoughts and to
honor myself and others.  The clinics on systems of the body, anatomy,
meditation, Ayurveda and astrology were interesting and filled with
knowledge.   I carried this knowledge into my own life, continued to
practice yoga 5-7 times per week and felt much better.  My blood tests
confirmed that this was working for me; the numbers were closer to the
healthy range.  I started to lose weight, have energy, and laugh more.  At
this point I wanted to be of service and teach this “health science” to
others.  During my first Practicum, mid-term training I was invited to
become an Apprentice teacher.  It is an honor and a challenge that I accept.

During my 2nd midterm I noticed the attack that was happening on the Yoga
Room and could not believe my eyes or ears. How could something that is so
healing, loving and beneficial come under attack?  I had no idea that part
of my training would be to understand that some do not want to heal.  There
are people in this world that would rather attack and be angry than happy
and filled with love. They would like to take Synergy Yoga from us. I prefer
happiness, I prefer to feel love.  I prefer to teach this “health science”,
Synergy Yoga.  No one can take this from me because I will not allow that to
happen. Yoga is essential.

—Pamela Mason

I atended my first Synergy Yoga class with Peri Ness over two years ago. I even remember the day - January 10, 2006. It was an incredible experience for me. I was going through a tough time, and the impact that the flow had on me was so profound, that I started coming almost every day. Prior to finding Synergy, I had never committed to doing regular exercise - I had only sporadically went to the gym or took occasional classes, including different styles of yoga. The Synergy flow helped me to process and connect on all levels. I soon signed up for the two month challenge, "every day for two months will change your life", and that evolved into more than a two year challenge. It really did change my life - on all levels. Not only do I have a more holistic lifestyle now, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, but I even met my future husband at a Synergy Yoga class :)

I benefited so much from my regular practice that I wanted to share it with others. In February 2008 I signed up for the Ten Day & began my teacher training.

Peri has always treated me with utmost love and respect, and I've learned a lot from her, from every other teacher, and from other students as well. I admire her for keeping the flow pure, open, loving, and healing, regardless of external circumstances. It doesn't matter where you are...when you're doing the flow, you're in a sanctuary. It's a tool for life, and I'm grateful that I've had the opportunity to learn about yoga and self discovery through Synergy Yoga, created and provided for all of our benefit, by Peri Ness. It touches people on a soul level, and it will be an honor for me to share that with others.

In Love and Synergy,

—Kim Kurdelak

Dear Peri and Charles

I wanted to let you know how sorry I was to learn of the vicious attack on your center. I am still trying to wrap my head around why the person who admittedly injured Peri’s back is mounting a campaign to destroy your business. Although I have recently returned from a long hiatus, I have spent at least 10 years doing Synergy Yoga and it has been an important part of my life. I have felt nothing but love and support during the countless classes I have attended. Over this time, I have seen a number of people benefit from your classes, and fondly remember a letter of gratitude written by the daughter of an elderly client who had passed away. I recall thinking that I would love to be doing your classes in my elderly years as well. You have given much to many people, and if some are dissatisfied, there are constructive ways to deal with concerns and complaints. The destructive use of loaded words such as “cult” and “starvation”, not only harm your business but reflect poorly on the yoga community in general. I can only hope that these people will take the time to meditate on their motivations and methods and follow the yogic path of love and forgiveness. I am deeply saddened with the possible demise of The Yoga Room. I wish you luck in dealing with this debacle and hope I will see you upon my return from India.

—Deborah Domenie

I HAVE BEEN OUT OF THE LOOP FOR THE LAST YEAR OR SO. I JUST HEARD ABOUT THE ALLEGATIONS SURROUNDING THE YOGA ROOM. I CAN ONLY COMMENT ON MY OWN EXPERIENCE THERE WHICH HAS BEEN POSITIVE AND VERY HEALING. I'VE TAKEN CLASSES THERE 3X A WEEK FOR OVER FIVE YEARS. I KNOW MOST OF THE PEOPLE INVOLVED. WHILE I NEVER TOOK A 10 DAY, I WAS AROUND AND TAKING CLASSES WHILE THEY WERE GOING ON. MY EXPERIENCE IS THAT A MUTUAL LOVE AND RESPECT EXISTED BETWEEN TEACHERS, STUDENTS AND PERI. I WAS NEVER AWARE OF ANY UNDERLYING DISHARMONY. REGARDLESS OF THE OUTCOME, I WILL CONTINUE TO SEND LOVE AND PEACE TO ALL INVOLVED AND WILL CONTINUE TO CONSIDER PERI AND CHARLES MY VERY SPECIAL FRIENDS.

—FRANK KELLY

My experience at the Yoga Room was during the ten intensive days retreat 2007.  I have to say I learned about nutrition, Health, about Yoga (it was my first experience practicing yoga), positions, my body and meditation.  I never experienced food deprivation during those 10 days! Actually we went out for dinner and had a great time.  I remember missing one dinner due to personal reasons.  I really enjoyed the ten days; I never felt that Peri was trying to create a cult or to worship her or anything like that.  My favorite instructor was Outi, she always was very patient with me. I couldn’t take more classes due to my schedule and personal activities but for me Peri and the Synergy Yoga University has a place in my heart.
 
—Pilar

I've suffered from neck pain for the last 15 years and have visited many different chiropractors - but I only received temporary, minimal relief from the adjustments.
Then, someone suggested yoga to me.  So, in the past four years I've attended yoga classes at five different yoga studios in the Encinitas area - always searching for the right one.  Last summer I walked into Synergy Yoga to try out a class. Halfway through the class, I knew that I had finally found my "home"!  This studio just feels great to me every time I attend a class.  Sometimes while at work during the day, the only thing that gets me through is knowing I will get to go to yoga for the 4:00 class.
Additionally, my neck pain is gone.  I am now working on releasing the rest of the "kinks" in my back, and don't know what I'd do without our wonderful little yoga studio.
 
One more thing - I'm sad that a group of people are spending so much energy in a negative destructive way. Let's all direct our energy instead to a more peaceful way of living for everyone on the earth.
 
~Namaste ~
 
—Debra

Synergy Yoga center is awsome! Peri and Charles we love you. To all peaceful staff at Synergy, we love you too! Your teaching has helped better our lives. The majority of people want you to stay in the community and continue to teach us about the spiritual beauty contained within our physical bodies. You have done 99 percent good and maybe 1 percent naughty ???. Shame on us all for not being saints. Regardless of human imperfection, you are  beloved by Encinitas because of your magic presence and gift to uplift the spirit. Someday soon the storm will blow over and the sun will shed its light. Please don't leave. San Diego needs you. We need a peaceful center of love to balance the military machine. Your work is valued. Hang on. Stay strong. We believe in you and will pray for happiness.  

Love always, 

—Danielle, Christopher, William, and Steve Russell

I truly owe my solid mental state of mind and health to Peri and her beautiful and wondrous practice of Synergy Yoga.
 
I began practicing at the yoga room almost 7 years ago, just after my son was born.  I truly needed an outlet and a quiet place that was just for me and special and sacred.  I found it in the yoga room.
 
Later on afer I had already reaped the benefits of regaining my body back and my inner and outer strength, I found myself pregnant AGAIN, and somewhat unexpectedly and I honestly could NOT have gotten through it without the loving and constant support of Peri.  She was always there giving me loving guidance and energy.  She encouraged me in my practice (which later made it a snap to get back to my non-pregnant body after the birth) and made me feel so special and beautiful at a time when I could have so easily fallen into the total dumps.  I was older and not sure this was the best thing that could have happened.  There was never a question of whether or not we would have this baby, and she is an absolute blessing, but having Peri in my life and her amazing practice actually allowed me to enjoy and embrace the whole process. 
 
I love Peri and Charles.  No one an nothing could EVER convince me that these two people ever did anything to intentionally harm ANYONE.  Peri and Charles have been virtually betrayed and kicked to the curb by so many people who have turned against them.  Anyone who says that Peri has caused more harm than good in this universe is a lier!!  Synergy IS NOT A CULT.  Trust me, I've been going there long enough to know who these people are that are saying this.  There are people who go to the synergy yoga center (or any other yoga center) and they are searching for something, something to fix them.  They want someone to follow.  Someone they can put on a pedestal and (for lack of a better word) worship.  That person was, for some, Peri. 
 
Peri never wanted anyone to worship her.  Yes, she asked for respect and peace and quiet and proper behavior in the yoga room and that was a large part of what made it so special.  No one was REQUIRED to do anything!  It's still a free country people.  If you didn't like the yoga room rules and requirements then go elsewhere!!!  You're only in the yoga capital of our nation....!!!  But for some, unfortunately, it became an obsession and when she turned out to be a regular human being and a business woman and not a GOD OR GURU, they set out to tear her down...she didn't save them the way they had hoped, poor patheic souls.  These people will see the evil of their ways at some point in time and I personally hope they pay dearly for taking down my beloved Peri and her beautiful practice.
 
I am devastated at the demise of the synergy yoga center, and I only can hope that there is wonderful, fullfilling and beautiful future for Peri and Charles up north.  I plan on visiting every chance I get, just to be able to practice with my master teacher and friend again.
 
Thank you for all you have given of yourself and for sharing your beautiful life and practice with all of us, especially us mothers.  I am eternally grateful and hopeful. 

Lovingly,

—Lisa H.

MY lovely Peri, I am willing to testify in a court of law that roxy and charmaineetc…were always happy to be there. Suddenly Not??????
My EXPERIENCE is Peri is the most charming, ethical, knowledgeable teacher I have ever met, and I know a few. I know that slander is abreast, so let me make it clear- healing is paramount to my recovery,and without her love,expertise and training, I would be dead.  Am grateful to Peri and Charles  for helping me to save myself through diet and exercise. This is a witchhunt and I will do what I can to preserve our communities space to find ourselves, by our own choice, In  the YogaRoom . What I hear is rediculus, as they were more than willing to be there-like myself. There is no brainwashing. ABSURD…….. Peri, I love and admire you.

Namaste,

—Tamara Terry 

Those of us who Know Know Peri, Know her intentions and motivations for the Yoga Room are of the highest order, begotten of love and the desire to Serve others. She may have some human imperfectons as most of us do, but a cult leader - which this darkness acuses her of being -  she is not.  She is a profoundly good and loving person with an enourmous heart and an extraordinay talent for the science of yoga coupled with the ability to give to it others.  thousands and thousands and thousands of others. it is a shame anyone would want to stop this enormous gift from giving of itself. nonetheless, this light of synergy yoga will go on. the doors to her building could close, but the thousands of candles lit by her light will shine on.  the hundreds of teachers she has trained and who now have their own yoga studios will pass on the light of her synergy yoga, no matter what name it is called by ....    so the light,  the torch of such profound dedication, will continue to multiply endlessly, despite all efforts of the darkness to snuff it out.   
in one of the psalms it says, " for you darkness itself is not dark and night shines like the day." maybe this is something the dark forces don't quite understand, or they would surely give up their masquerade and join the light  !!!!.

i thank God for this beautiful and devoted soul, this Peri Ness DeFay, who came into my life twenty years ago.  She has, among the many other qualities of her being, shown me how the powerful force of love and determination, complete dedication and devotion to  God  can manifest so much Good despite obstacles and shortcomings within and without.  Her example, her friendship has been a starburst of blessings beyond compare. i am so grateful to call her "friend"  on our divine pathway to the infinite.

—carol donahoe    

to honor Peri Ness DeFay

Peri and i met the day she arrived in Encinitas to live   I opened the door and in came this breath of beauty and light.   she was 28, i was 50.  she had always appreciated elders.   
from the time she was a child in south africa and enjoyed the company of some of India's best Yoga teachers.     it seems to me it has been her prescribed role in this life to bring to many thousands of others the healthful and spiritual wonders of this ancient science of yoga born in the land of India.
a gift for us all.  in her beginning years in encinitas  in order to continue her own developement and practice of yoga peri rode a bike every day from encinitas to solana beach.   and she mangaed a gift shop that with an unusual momentum began to sparkle with the treasures and crafts she inspired others to bring and in turn marketed as uplifting treasures for others.   in my observation,  anything  Peri touches with her enthusiasm good and strong will, devotion and determination, and most of all her loving desire to give the gifts of good she experiences to others, flourishes, grows into
a flowering lotus.   She also brings to the table of those wanting to be a part of her work, not just as a yoga student, but as an intricate part of this work, in whatever capacity, as greeter, secretary, accountant, or one wanting to do the teacher's training, an intensity that only the most determined are able to stay with.   like any serious training ground, be it spiritual or a professional football or basketball team.   anyone can voluntarily come and or go, but those who make the choice to stay with the program, to go on to be proficient yoga teachers, or help in that cause, go thru the disciplines involved.  this is not an easy pathway; it is intense and difficult and sometimes thorny, but it is either worthy of the winning or not, as one chooses.  most of us simply choose to become a good yoga practitoner.  which is all we need or want.  the benefits are extremely wonderful for mind, body and soul.   but not everyone has the talent, or in
Peri's case, the genius, the loving will to give to others all of their life's time and energy  the gifts they have been given and painstakenly earned.      i have watched Peri for twenty years now, give give and give. beyond  hours of the disciplines of her own life,  her inner self,  she gives all the remaining hours to others.  there isn't anyone who walks thru her door she does not want to give to, help with the benefits of yoga.   and if anyone wants more of her  or her training she does everything she can to give.   
She is indeed a wonderful and powerful person.  yet not everyone can withstand the force of her determinations in this good work or her beauty born of flesh and spirit.   humanly speaking, some individuals are jealous and envious.    sometimes they just go away from or leave her force field.   others become angry and want to harm her and her work.    it is a grave responsibility to be part of the destruction of another's reputation or work.  there really isn't any justifiable reason for anyone to intentionally harm another.  forgiving, being forgiving is our hope.   i hope anyone contributing to the negative rumors and broadcasts, begun by one individual who wishes her great harm, and carried on by a few subject to his distortions,  many unwittingly vulnerable to these untrue broadcasts, i hope reconsider, desist to be a part of the destruction of Peri's reputation and work.   
Peri has given her life to this work unstintingly completely with the utmost highest motivation and intentionality.   she may not have reached perfection yet, but she does her very best to realize her soul potential and help others along the way.  
there is a web of outright untruths in this wave of darkness that wants to surround and suffocate her reputation and work.

—carol donahoe  

Eight years ago next month my best friend, lover, traveling companion and wife Mary Jo died suddenly at age 54 of a pulmonary embolism. I was overwhelmed with grief and sadness, and the only reason I choose to stay in this life was the pain my departure would have caused to my son and my friends. 

Saturday mornings were our special, one-on-one time together.  I was looking for something to do to fill that time and within a few weeks of her death I decided to try Saturday morning yoga classes.  A friend suggested Synergy Yoga.

Looking back on that first year I felt lost, afraid, sad, confused and angry.  But my Saturday and Sunday morning yoga became a safe, grounding place for me.  A few of the staff knew my story.  Most did not, but all were friendly and supportive.  For at least a year, I often cried silently during or after class.  It became a safe place to let my emotions out. 

The healing came slowly, but surely, and although the pain will never completely go away, I have healed.  Looking back, Synergy has been an essential part of my recovery. 
 
I also thank Synergy for the major improvement in my health that has occurred over the last eight years.  As I have aged from 60 to almost 68, old injuries incurred as an United States Air Force pilot in Viet Nam have improved or vanished.  Lower back pain has been gone for at least four years.  A knee replacement my doctor said was imperative has been postponed for eight years.
 
And the clarity I gained during the meditative practice of Synergy played a major part in my business success as a principal and broker at a major commercial real estate firm during the last eight years.
 
Thanks to Peri, Charles and to all the teachers who have helped me so much over the last eight years. 
 
—Norm Kerlin

Dear Peri and Charles,

I wanted to let you know how much I learned from doing the Synergy Yoga for
six months. I'm truly sorry to see what has happened with your business.
I think the yoga was astounding and I really hope that when this is over you
will be able to have everything you want in a studio. It is a beautiful
yoga.

While I attended Synergy during your sabbatical I was impressed by the
faithfulness of your employees. They ran the center with such love and
respect for you. Every word they said echoed what I heard you say in the
video and in class. They always gave you full credit as master teacher and
never took any credit themselves.

One day I told Roxanne that all the instructors were doing such a good job
without you, that they should be proud of how capable they were. It was an
honor to how well-trained they were. She actually refused to take any
credit, saying that you were on the phone with them every day. She was quite
joyful about refusing to take the compliment.

I thought I'd share that experience with you. They always spoke of you with
such respect while you were gone, there was never any disrespect. I think
that may be important to know right now.

So I honor those who have taught me-you and them.

Thank you very much,

—Laura B.

"To actually go through the miles and mounds of how Synergy Yoga was beneficial in my life would take hundreds of pages, so please understand that this testimonial is not all-inclusive.   Know that there is so much more about this form of yoga and my experience with it than I can share in these couple of pages of writing. 
My first meaningful introduction to Synergy Yoga was on the base where I worked with a teacher by the name of Rashed.  My continuing practice under his tutelage there and then at his studio in Escondido, Sattva Fitness, and his encouragement led me to what was at the time known as The Yoga Room. 
I am a Marine Corps Captain and had been a Company Commander in Operation Iraqi Freedom, and after coming back from my deployment in the conflict, my husband at the time wanted a divorce.  I found an ability to process many of those painful emotions and endure that difficult time through my yoga practice.  Rashed and his wife, Darlene, also a Synergy Yoga Teacher, told me about and encouraged me to go through what was known as the 10 Day Intensive at the Yoga Room, a program designed to expose people to ten days of, as the name implies, intense yoga training, combined with education on the various aspects of yoga, as well as offer those who endured the experience the opportunity to pursue Teacher Training. 
I went through the 10-Day Intensive in July of 2004, just as my divorce was being finalized and as I was being transferred to work at another base in the area.  I was asked after the program was over how I was different, how this intensive changed me, and the most accurate response I could come up with was that it made me more loving.  The intensive incorporated sharing, similar to a group therapy I can imagine, in with the yoga practice itself, as well as meditation, and through the act of processing what was going on inside of me I was able to deal with issues in my life that needed healing. 
After the program I was asked if I wanted to go through the teacher training, and I acquiesced.  I wanted to be a Synergy Yoga Teacher.  I learned so much, and through the experiences that I have had with various yoga styles and techniques, this one more than any other I have had the opportunity to experience actually heals.
I am completely and utterly grateful for the guidance, love, and education I received from the Yoga Room.  Having had to read the Gita and other pertinent material—Autobiography of a Yogi for one—and having received copious instruction on various aspects of yoga from many qualified experts in their respective fields, I feel confident in my knowledge of and understanding of yoga.  Of course I can always learn and continue to learn more, but this is an excellent and an "above and beyond" foundation. 
In my own teaching of Synergy Yoga, I have had many students who are older come up to me after a class and tell me it no longer hurts to get out of bed in the morning.  I have had students go through traumatic events in their lives, and see the ability for them to process many of their emotions in their yoga practice and come out grounded and better on the other end.  My intention with teaching yoga is only to help people, and armed with my training in Synergy Yoga, I am able to do just that, and safely.  
In my time in the Marine Corps, I have endured combat, divorce, a stomach condition that resulted in regurgitating everything I ate for four years and eventual surgery, chronic left upper back pain from a strained rhomboid, foot surgery on both feet, knee surgery (complete ACL tear), and the tearing of tendons that connect my skull to my trapezoids, to name a few.  While my practice of Synergy Yoga has helped and continues to help all of these maladies, one miraculous story I will share involves my knee.  After I injured my knee I had to wait over three months for surgery.  Initially I had damaged my LCL, MCL, ACL, lateral condyle, and had some meniscus damage.  I had nearly nothing connecting my upper leg above the knee to the rest of my leg.  On crutches and in a brace, I nevertheless practiced Synergy Yoga at the Synergy Yoga Center.  I even completed a 5-day intensive training session there, all before my surgery.  When my surgeon saw me to schedule surgery, I had, through Synergy Yoga, built up all the muscles around my knee and in my leg, so that he actually commented that were it not for the X-rays he would not have been able to tell that I was injured.  I was able to walk around normally.   
Synergy Yoga has, in my opinion, also helped my relationship with my mother.  She was a negative person who was addicted to prescription pain medication, and after serendipitously being there for her rock bottom, she went through rehab and has changed into a positive, lucid, continuously healthier individual.  Many of the positive mental and even spiritual principles I shared with her I learned at the Yoga Room, especially in regards to forgiveness, compassion, and love.  After nearly two decades of her being one way, she has grown into the loving person I remember from my early childhood. 
What is special about Synergy Yoga?  The first and foremost difference I have noticed in this form of yoga is reverence and connection to breath.  From the first second of the practice to the end, the breath is taught, and students connect to their own breath from the very beginning.  Also, in between each posture, rather than simply moving on to the next one, each posture is honored and the body of the student is honored when the student closes his/her eyes and takes a full body breath after the completion of each posture.  Not only is the principle that the physical practice of yoga, the third and fourth steps of the eight-fold path that is yoga, is half breath/half posture respected, but other steps in the eightfold path—interiorization, meditation, concentration—are also included in the practice.  This emphasis of not just "doing the postures" transforms an athletic exercise into holistic yoga, a healing experience.  
As for problems that I have heard about in how Peri Ness-Defay manages her studio, I urge anyone to maintain perspective.  First and foremost, while the yoga that Peri teaches is of in my mind the highest quality, and while the work that Peri pours into the practice and training of her students and her staff is immense, she is, nevertheless, not perfect.  She is human.  Unfortunately, it seems that while she has, in my opinion, done so many things right in her work in Synergy Yoga, some people choose to focus on her imperfections and use those critiques that could be addressed to anyone to define her.  This is a travesty. 
It's easy to sit back and judge, but at the end of the day, if this studio were no more, and people who have benefited from her sharing were to eventually wither away, the world, especially all those who need healing in their lives, which is all of us, would be the worse off.  This studio is a positive force in the world and does so much good work, and should not be destroyed because of slander.  Please, people, consider context and see the endless benefits of this amazing place of healing. 
Coincidentally, I share my birthday with the Yoga Room.  I am fifteen years older than it to the day.  As I turn 31 this Monday and as it turns 16, I pray that as I am wished "many more" years of being, so may it continue to thrive, for "many more" years as well."

Namaste,

—Brandy

When she first came to Encinitas, Peri and I were sharing an apartment. She
is a friend of many years now, who was kind to me at all times, trying to
uplift and see the positive. When she perceived that I could be in need,
she offered assistance. Her generosity many times left me amazed for it was
an instant outpouring of her caring in a profuse way.
I feel saddened that, as it seems, she needs to leave her beloved
Encinitas, and yet I know that our friendship will endure, that we will
meet again and share again.

—Monika Sherin

(posted on the Yogi Joe blog, "A Yogi Supporting Peri", March 17, 2008)
Blogger grantcv1 said...

I too tried to leave a supportive message on that website, but was denied. I am glad to see this website is apparently more open to positive and negative feedback. I, for one, love attending synergy yoga - especially when Peri is teaching.

(posted on the Yogi Joe blog, "A Yogi Supporting Peri", March 17, 2008)
Blogger Yogi Joe said...

Today I received, in my email, a copy of the handwritten apology from Rondberg to Peri. I am not going to post the letter at
this time - I hope that Rondberg instead comes to his senses and puts his nasty attack aside. But I will summarize what the
letter said. I believe that this is the apology that Peri alludes to in her newsletter. It is dated January 12, 2008 and is signed by
Terry Alan Rondberg. In it he apologizes profusely for injurying Peri and the pain that he has caused. He states that he
doesn't know if he would have the heart to forgive him if he was her. Amongst other things, he apologizes for the
nasty threats he has made and apologies for treating Roxanne badly. He heaps lots of praise on Peri and calls her "strong, loving, committeed and honest." He claims to miss the Yoga Room and states that he would like to return to practising
yoga at the Yoga Room. He says that he is still searching for how he can make it up to Peri - financially or otherwise. He
says that he owes both Charles and Peri many apologies for what he has done and that this apology is just the beginning.

What I find curious is that this is supposed to be his true feeling on January 12th. Within two weeks though, he had worked
to drive a number of employees from the Yoga Room and was preparing his hateful website. I would like to believe that this
letter reflects the true feelings that he feels towards the Yoga Room - they reflect kindly upon him. Somehow though, in
the time since then his heart has filled with hatred. Now he is lashing out, saying things that, if they instead reflect his true
feelings, make his letter pleading for forgiveness and a return to the Yoga Room look very unusual indeed.

I do hope that Rondberg will put his vendetta aside. Everyone loses from what he is doing.

(posted on the Yogi Joe blog, "A Yogi Supporting Peri", March 17, 2008)
Blogger Siglia said...

It is very unfortunate to hear about this situation and how things escalated totally out of control, hurting Peri's work and long time effort to establish her name in the Yoga field in Encinitas.
I don't want to get involved with the details of this issue, but I disagree with devious behaviour as demonstrate by this chiropractor and I think that no one deserves this kind of attack in their morale as he has done with Peri. I have attended the Yoga Room for ~ 3 years, and I really enjoy their method that have proved to be very efficient to me.
I wish Peri the best and hope all resolves in a good way as Master PY would like to see it resolved.

(posted on the Yogi Joe blog, "A Yogi Supporting Peri", March 17, 2008)
Blogger Anonymous said...

I found it particularly amusing that on Dr. Rondberg's website he states the following in support of his position against Peri:

'Yogananda does not teach us to be vindictive or to strike out and hurt others when they are not in conformity with our own personal beliefs. He does not teach that to achieve a state of fearlessness one must manipulate and dominate others resorting to false accusations and lies.'

and yet it sounds like this is precisely what he himself is doing. A Bible passage about casting stones comes to mind.

I've attended Yoga classes at the Yoga room on a regular basis 3 times a
week for the last 9-10 years.  I've also attended posture clinics over the
years.  I'm a respon middle aged woman with a college degree BSBA and a
daughter over 25 who has also attended classes and took the first 10 day
instructional class with Peri.  Over the years I've observed who Peri is...
And exceptional knowledgable yoga instructor... Deeply caring about her
students and staff... An intuitive high level healer...She has an expanded
vision of how yoga can benefit a person on all levels.  I've observed
students from many different countries (and states) come for training and
over the ensuing months (and years) develop into fine instructors with a
heightened self esteem and a marketable skill.  Students around the world
have started businesses due to her expertise and training.  I have not
perceived her as a cult leader, member or representative of any form of
cult.  

Sincerely,

—Sunnie Trogdon, 3/27/08

To All Concerned:

I am saddened to hear of this turmoil concerning The Yoga Room. I took my
first yoga class there on August 1, 1997, some ten years ago. Peri was
teaching that class, came up to me after class, and indicated that, if I did
yoga every day for three months, it would change my life. It has.
I did the Ten-Day Intensive that November. (I believe it cost in the
neighborhood of $900 but then everything has become significantly more
expensive in the Encinitas area these days.) I certainly felt like I got my
money's worth. I began the Practicum but had the difficulty of having a
young daughter in Eugene, Oregon who needed me there. When I returned to
Encinitas at the six-month juncture in May of 1998, I expressed my concern
that I had not been able to keep up with my practicum group because of the
distance. Peri let me go through the new Ten-Day Intensive for free.
Another teacher trainee suggested that i go with him to meet Ammachi, an
Indian saint, that June (Yogananda recommended meeting saints.) Two vedic
astrologers from the Encinitas area had said that I would meet my guru
within a couple of years. When I asked Ammachi about this occurrence, she
indicated that she was willing to be my guru. Her statement created a
dilemma for me as I had felt drawn to Yogananda ever since I read
Autobiography of a Yogi at the age of 18. I had an individual yoga session
scheduled with Peri that afternoon and so I drove back down to Encinitas and
expressed my dilemma to Peri.
Peri suggested that I ask Ammachi and Yogananda. I attempted to do this and
Peri then queried what their response
might have been. I said "Amma." Peri's response was that, when an avatar
says they're willing to be your guru,
what's the question. I will always be humbly grateful to Peri for her
support in this, for me, momentous decision.
About the same time, I did a morning class front row, left, next to
Charles, who had gone through the Ten-Day Intensive
the November before I had. We seemed to push each other, not out of a sense
of competition, but in a supportive way of each attempting to do our best,
together. At the end of the session, Charles turned to me, saying "Brother"
and holding out his hand. I will always remember this moment as well. As I
clasped it, I knew that, as solitary a pursuit as yoga can seem, at times,
one is not necessarily alone.
In August of 2000, my daughter and I took a ten-day vacation in Encinitas
(not an Intensive.) Peri let my eleven year-old daughter take the adult
classes during that time and was notable in her consideration and kindness
towards her.
My daughter retains very fond memories of this time, finding it inspiring.
At 18, she does yoga every day.
At Christmas time in 2006, I stayed in Encinitas for two weeks and did yoga
every morning except those two days, Christmas and New Year's, that The Yoga
Room was closed. My experience was very renewing, everything I had hoped
for. I was asked
to move back from the front row, despite being early, but took this request
as part of my spiritual practice. The litany during
the asana flow can, at times, seem annoying (if one already knows the flow)
and, at this point, I do prefer the silent class. However, I remind myself
that it is essential to the newcomers and that, if it distracts me, any
annoyance on my part is, perhaps, more of a commentary on a lack of focus in
my own practice. Moreover, there always seems to be at least one asana in
the flow where my posture and breathing can stand improvement (if I listen.)
One pearl of wisdom that I have come across in my quest for continued
spiritual growth, in the last ten years, is that a yogi/yogini is hard on
her/himself and easy on others. I take this statement to mean that I cast
the beam out my own eye before I cast the mote out of another's. If I can
continue to practice this idea in my behavior to the best of my ability,
eventually, I may start to come to a place of compassion where, hopefully, I
begin to behave like the good Samaritan rather than the good doctor or the
pious priest. I know how to play the other roles far too well. Another
pearl, one of my favorites, is that a saint is someone who fell down six
times and got up seven. Since I know I have fallen out of Standing Bow at
least seven times, the math may be a little off but, nonetheless, I find
this concept heartening.
Again, I am quite saddened at the controversy and the idea that The Yoga
Room might cease to exist. If I should be in a place
of judgment at all, I can only judge by what my experience teaches me. And
with that, I must say that, for the reasons expressed above, Peri and
Charles hold a signficant place in my heart.
With love,

—Shelby Glidden, MFT

P.S. If the most significant charge against Charles is failing to pay for
gas, I know at least 20 people in Encinitas at least as thoughtless. Let's
indite them. And as for the Sorceress of Encinitas (when she's not Sri
Yukteswar,) I'm Lahiri Mahasaya,
so don't forget to be nice to me next time I'm down. I love you, Peri !!!

I started going to The Yoga Room about five years ago.
 Until that point I had only been exposed to yoga
through a class one of my co-workers taught at work.
It was mostly a stretching class but she added a few
yoga postures to the class.  When she retired, I
really missed the class and decided to find a yoga
studio near my home.  My co-worker suggested that I
find a place that trains teachers because she said the
quality of the practice and teachers would be
superior.  I searched the web and found The Yoga Room
and have been practicing there ever since. 

Five years ago most people who knew me on the surface
thought I had everything going for me.  I had a
wonderful husband who I'd been married to for over 15
years.  We had survived issues in our marriage and in
life in general that would have torn most marriages
apart.  I had two great kids and a good job.  However,
on the inside, I was always worrying - worrying about
everything.  I was afraid and restless.  I was always
on the go and didn't know how to be calm and peaceful.
 Family members and people close to me had hurt me
deeply and I had no idea how to deal with it.   I
started going to The Yoga Room purely for the physical
exercise.  I quickly found out that the physical
aspect of the practice was only one component.  Don't
get me wrong - I got in the best physical shape of my
life.  The more important part was what I learned
about the body/mind/soul connection.   In addition to
learning the asanas, I learned how to meditate.  I
heard positive messages for an hour and a half a day
and I realized that "worrying really is a complete
waste of time" and that "the number one trait of a
yogi is fearlessness."  I learned how to relax, enjoy
life more and to just let go.  People around me
noticed positive changes in me. 

I had been going to The Yoga Room regularly for quite
a while before I had my first class with Peri.  Just
like in the movie "Thelma and Louise" I realized what
all the fuss was about!  Peri's classes were nothing
short of magical.  I felt transported and knew what
she was doing was very special.  I felt grateful for
the experience every time I had the opportunity to
take one of her classes.  I also remember thinking how
well The Yoga Room was run - the teachers were so well
trained and everything was top notch.  There was also
a feeling of love in the place and people truly
enjoyed practicing there.

Over the years my husband and kids would come with me
to classes every once in a while.  About seven months
ago my husband was going through a very rough time and
our marriage was suffering.  My husband saw what yoga
had done for me and decided to try going to The Yoga
Room as well.  Not only did he go but he went 77 days
in a row and was a changed man.  It was nothing short
of a miracle.  Our marriage became stronger than ever
and we connected on a level we hadn't achieved before.
  We just celebrated our 22nd anniversary and started
the day at The Yoga Room where Charles and the class
sent out a special blessing to us.  I will never
forget how incredible that felt and I know we will
continue practicing yoga together to keep our marriage
strong.

I will be eternally grateful to Peri and Charles and
The Yoga Room for this, for what I've learned and for
the love I've felt there.  I know they've helped many
people over the years and I wish them nothing but the
best.   Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

—Rajka Hayden

Animals kill without malice or remorse, but humans do
it for sport. The young instructors who attacked and
brought down Synergy and Peri Ness are young adults
without spouses or children.  It will be years and
years before any of them will fully understand the
consequences of their actions. 

We must not hate them, we must love them.

This is the basic, core element of what I have learned
in my seven months at Synergy Yoga and the teachings
of Peri Ness. 

Yoga is not a religion and Synergy does not employ
cult-like thinking. My wife has been going there for
five years and we bring our whole family there.
For people reading this who have spouses and children
and love them with all their hearts and truly wish for
them to have the healthiest, happiest, well balanced
life, all I can say is, I hope my daughter grows up
with the loving, caring, special qualities of Peri
Ness . She is a true healer and a teacher and even
while under attack (an attack that was carried out
with military precision, including a "perfectly timed"
feature article in Encinitas Magazine on all the other
available places to do Yoga) she did not deviate from
her teachings, did not circle her wagons, marshall her
forces and counter attack.  It's not her way or
Synergy's way.

Hatred breeds more hatred and true Yoga teaches love.

Steven Spielburg, perhaps the greatest movie director
that has ever lived, did not speak to his own dad for
15 tears before a heartfelt reconciliation. He is also
quoted as saying he did not truly understand the world
until he had children.

My  personal belief is that the young instructors over
time will come to understand the consequences of their
actions and the damages they have done and they will
come back to Peri seeking forgiveness and in the
greatest lesson of all and in the strongest testimony
to her own character she WILL totally forgive them and
reveal that she had never stopped loving them.

For the people judging her I ask-  are you a critical
thinker? Do you have the traits of a disciplined mind?
(intellectual integrity, intellectual fair mindedness.
sense of reason, sense of justice, empathy)   I assure
you Peri has not been treated with any fairness or
sense of justice, she has been smart bombed  and
gutted- but NOT defeated because there are no winners
in all of this.

There is a quote in the bible-  "I have no greater joy
than to hear that my children walk in truth."

I will give a copy of this letter to both of my
children. There are times in life where you must take
a stand, must have the courage to act, must make your
beliefs known.

I am truly grateful for all that Synergy Yoga did for
me and my family.
Peri Ness is about love not hate.

To end on a high note, the darkest hours sometimes
shine the brightest light. I applaud loudly the
gallant actions of Peri's husband, when sticks and
stones and poison arrows were flung at her, he stood
strong beside her and demonstrated a love and
compassion for her most people will not understand.

Peri is also blessed to have a true friend like Yoga
Linda. One true friend is worth a thousand admirers.

Thank you Peri and please know the Hayden family
stands with you!

—Doug Hayden

ps-  If a person is only interested in the physical
side of yoga, I came to Synergy a 51 year old man,
overweight with extreme high blood pressure, teetering
on divorce.

My wife explained that you can start with gentle yoga
and just using your breath (without straining) change
your whole physical body. I did NOT believe her at
first.

I now have normal blood pressure and I'm in the best
shape of my life (and I played college basketball).
All my health stats are on record at my doctor's
office in Encinitas.

From the moment I went to the Yoga Room I fell in love with the spirit there, the synergy of the flow and the love from Peri and Charles. For 12 years I was searching for that special teacher and Peri gave me what I was looking for. She is a beautiful person and gives from her heart and soul. Peri in my eyes only showed love and respect for everyone she came in contact with.

—Elizabeth Austin-Eckert

My name is Grant Vergottini and I have been practicing Synergy Yoga since 2006. I go to the Yoga Room 2, 3, or 4 times a week after work. I find it to be a wonderful break from the daily grind of deep concentration developing intricate software. I started doing synergy yoga out of curiosity, but quickly became hooked when I discovered how much better I was looking and feeling as a result.

Since I started at the Yoga Room, I always really like the instructors, the atmosphere, and the classes. Compared to other yoga classes I have taken, the greater intensity, discipline, and spirituality of Synergy Yoga made it more special to me. I quickly became very fond of the various instructors. Roxy just made me smile - something she once commented on. Elia taught me a lot, adding details that allowed me to coax my body into doing things it just wouldn't do otherwise. Derek impressed me by how far he had come, having started not much before I did.

I find myself now greatly disappointed with how these same instructors have chosen to lash out at the Yoga Room. While I have tried to understand their charges, the obvious ulterior motives, the discredited reputation of the ring leader with lots of problems of his own, and the apalling tactics being used leave he bewildered that anyone can see any honor in what they have done.  There is no honor - no matter what. This is never how anyone should ever go about addressing any grievance. That people who would appear to aspire to higher ideals would do this casts a huge shadow of doubt over the entire neighborhood and what it stands for. I say that as an outsider looking in. I am someone schooled in business etiquette rather than spiritual ways. The right solution in my world always involves lots of listening, a little talking, and eventually finding win - win solutions for everyone. That is the right way to address a problem - even when it takes persistance and patience.

I continue to practice Synergy Yoga at the Yoga Room on my usual schedule. If anything the classes have become more humorous and fun in recent weeks - is this really how a cult feels? Hardly, I'm sure of that.
I send my full support to Peri, Charles, Outi, Linda, and the rest of the Yoga Room staff.

Thank you,

—Grant Vergottini

During meditation/visualization when we are going to our favorite place on the planet, I go to the Yoga Room, the big room facing the mirror, two mirrors from the East wall, the front row.  That is my favorite place on the planet.  That is the spot on the planet that changed my life.  I have been to Rome, Athens, Tokyo, Hong Kong, New York, Hawaii, Guam, Canada, Mexico, Costa Rica and countless other places on this Earth but the big room, 2nd mirror from the East Wall, front row, is where I found me.

—E. Austin

My experience at the Yoga Room began when I drove down 2nd street in Encinitas one afternoon in 1992 and noticed a new place advertising Yoga.  At that time, The Yoga Room was just that, one large room.  We students left our shoes in a very small alcove right by the door where we also paid for the class.  It is at that door that I first met Peri Ness.  I echo the sentiments of many of her students when I say that in class I finally found the Yoga practice I had been looking for.  Years went by and the The Yoga Room finally grew into a large and prosperous studio.  I myself came and went as a student but I was always happy to know that I could go back to practicing yoga at the Yoga room where the atmosphere was always warm and welcoming and the teaching uniformly excellent.

In 1999 I did the 10 day Intensive.  It was a great experience.  Afterwards, people kept asking me what I had done because I looked so good.  There was nothing weird about it.  We had plenty of breaks for rest and food and were certainly not discouraged from seeing or talking to friends or family.  In fact, as I recall, Roxy had one-day off in the middle of the ten day to do just that.  I had such a good experience with the ten day that I ended up going to the Yoga room Hawaii retreat.  Another great experience.

Recently, last November I returned to the Yoga Room.  Due to my financial situation at the time, I thought it would be a good idea to see if I could do a trade to pay for my classes.  Peri graciously offered me a small job at the studio and I began to work for them.  Roxanne and Charmaine had a small ceremony with me to welcome me to The Yoga Room.  Derek showed me the ropes and I saw Elia in passing.  I worked there one day a week during what they called the deep clean.  As an employee, privy to the inner workings of the Yoga Room, I can truthfully say that at no time did I notice any abusive or coercive behavior on the part of either Peri or Charles.  I also did not feel or see any unhappiness or dissatisfaction displayed by any of the 4 employees mentioned above.  Granted, I was not a close confident of any of those 4 people, but as I say, there was nothing overt in their behavior.  Their sudden departure came as a surprise to me.  Shortly after they all left, I ran into Elia in line at the local coffee shop.  I asked him what had happened and he told me they all left because Peri exploited their employees by not paying them overtime???  That's it?  Oh, and she brainwashes them too.  

Obviously, something else is going on with these people.  I'm still not sure what it is.  What I do know is that it is a crying shame that their irresponsible actions have cause the Yoga Room to close.  It will be fully missed.

—Sara Singley

From Day One, it is obvious that this Ten-Day program is extremely well thought-out and carried out. The classes, lectures, processes, homework, and breaks all roll out with a logic that's no doubt been refined through experience — but it doesn’t feel rigid. You sense quickly that you are getting the right stuff, in the right order, the right way.

I learned a lot, not just about the practice but also about the tradition, context and —most importantly — the true value and meaning of yoga. While Peri Ness DeFay and her Synergy Yoga teachers are very knowledgeable and particular when it comes to asanas and pranayama, their intention and their insights go much further. In fact, the impression that's probably stayed with me the longest and strongest is the positive atmosphere, the supportive interaction — the love, basically — that the staff and this retreat offered us participants. That positive vibe was also generated and echoed by our group, another rewarding aspect of the whole experience.

Lastly, I want to say that this is a very comfortable process for men — something I haven't found in some other yoga centers. To begin with, it was a real athletic challenge, and senior teacher Charles DeFay in particular was a big help — a big brother, really. But the female staff was also terrific in their interactions with the guy contingent (there was roughly a 2-1 female-to-male ratio when I attended).

That comfort level probably comes from the Yoga Room philosophy (if I can speak for them briefly) that everyone is an “amazing yogi,” as they put it. They’re right, of course... but not everyone puts that message across so convincingly as they do at Synergy Yoga. A big Namaste to them, and to potential students, I wholeheartedly recommend this program. I want to do it again and I'm urging my wife to sign up, too.

— John Capouya, New York City; author of "Real Men Do Yoga"
(April 2004 Ten-Day participant).

I am writing to share my gratitude for the Yoga Room. From the moment I enter the door, I am always greeted by a smile and gracious assistance at the front desk. Every one of your instructors exudes such a loving, nurturing extension of their being. I always feel cared for and coaxed during class to work to my edge and acknowledge myself for being a yogi-in-training. Every one of your teachers in training is so diligent and concerned, that I know those who are novices will be fabulous, and those who have become full-fledged instructors will be mentors for all of us. Thank you for providing this beautiful space and allowing me to benefit from its presence.

— Eva Marsteller

When I attended my first ever yoga class on June 1, 2002 a pile of screws, hooks, and rods was embedded in my back. (Imagine the rods ten to twelve inches long, etc.) A year and a half prior (December, 2000) I had undergone surgery to fuse my lower spine after many years of severe pain from degenerative disc disease. I was unable to drive for several months after the-surgery, but finally my first excursion was a trip to see a specialist about the annoying lump in my eyelid. It turned out to be cancer (lymphoma; “incurable”) and a week later I found myself in the hospital undergoing surgery. Six months after that I was told I required thoracic surgery. The idea of having my chest sawed open terrified me but a string of doctors convinced me it was essential. I ended up with a scar that looks like a zipper running down the center of my chest. It was six months later that I attended that first yoga class. I was anxious about trying it, having heard that it was a very dynamic form of yoga (Synergy Yoga, at Surf Therapy Yoga In Point Arena, CA). I was so weak from all the surgery and out of shape; not to mention being middle-aged and over weight. How would I keep up? However, I had finally gotten it that my body was losing the battle to remain on this planet. The spiritual path I had followed all my life was not grounded in the body. For me there was something missing. The minute I completed that first synergy Yoga class I knew this was it. A few weeks later I attended the July, 2002 Synergy Yoga ten day intensive in Encinitas, Ca and realized I had to continue with the teacher training program to accelerate my own yoga experience. It was five months after that (December, 2002) when they removed the hardware from my back. Now I am back in Encinitas at the Yoga Room for my final. Some days I have to wear a rigid back brace; some days a softer brace that looks like a very ugly corset. There are days when I do not wear a brace at all. Those days are increasing. The most important thing is that I am getting better. Yoga is now an essential part of my life. I hope to pursue an apprenticeship in Synergy Yoga. The doctors may call my cancer incurable, but I intend to die with it rather than of it. I am convinced that Synergy Yoga (in conjunction with the monitoring and treatment advised by my oncologist and holistic physician) is the best thing I can do to prolong a strong, healthy life. I am finally learning to engage my will to manifest Divine will; whatever that may be.

— Gloria Jorgensen

In two months yoga therapy unlocked my neck completely. I could never lie down on my stomach and rest my neck — I’d have migraine headaches. Now the pain is gone completely. Thank you and bless you!

— Sharon Reese, filmmaker

From attending Synergy Workshops, I became aware of what had blinded me for so long — very old and limiting fears, emotional blocks, and mental tapes. Thanks to the healing work I have done in Yoga Classes, Yoga Therapy, and Synergy workshops, I could see how incredibly unbalanced I had allowed my life to become.

— Rick Epperson, teacher

This experience has changed my life. I went in thinking it wouldn't be a big deal, just great training in yoga. I will be forever changed because of this 10-day and because of it, I have found my spiritual path again.

— Kristen Crawford

I always like to provide some suggestion, but this time I truly was amazed beyond expectation. So...no suggestions for now.

— David Baron